Every year, Valentine’s Day, along with its epic run-up of love-soaked commercials and ads, is dreaded by singles everywhere. But what if you are struggling in an unhappy or even abusive marriage? You may feel like a bad marriage is breaking your heart, especially as Valentine’s Day approaches…and you might be right!
Bad Marriage…Bad Heart Health
A study published in 2014 in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found a direct link between being in an unhappy marriage and an increase in cardiovascular problems, such as heart attack, stroke, and high cholesterol. Unsurprisingly, poor heart health was more pronounced in women. In a Washington Post article about the study, Hui Liu, the lead study investigator, speculated, “it’s possible that women are more likely to internalize their feelings, feel depressed and be more sensitive than the men in their relationships.”
How Is Your Heart This Valentine’s Day?
Whether you have heart trouble or not, if this Valentine’s Day serves to remind you of how perfect your marriage is NOT, then it’s time to consider your options. If you simply need to find a way to reignite the spark of love in your marriage, perhaps talking with your partner or seeking counseling can stoke those flames. Simply walking away from problems may seem like the “easy” thing to do but it is not a decision that should be taken without great care and consideration.
If you feel as though you have drifted irreparably apart, or if your relationship has turned abusive, then it’s time to start thinking about the big D-word.
Explore your options at a Second Saturday Divorce Workshop
Divorce is a big decision, but it might be the right decision for you. A divorce will have a profound impact on your family, your living situation, your finances, and your future, so don’t make this decision lightly or without educating yourself.
Every month, Second Saturday Divorce Workshops are held throughout the country. These workshops are geared specifically for women and provide expert advice from divorce attorneys, accountants, investment advisors, therapists and other professionals on how to prepare for your divorce and what to expect during the process. Also, after attending a Second Saturday divorce workshop, you may realize that you still have work to do on mending or saving your marriage!
Workshops are held around the USA. Check our website, you can find the nearest workshop to you. Find out more about our Second Saturday Divorce Workshops.
Almost 70 years old, married 36 years, to foreign abusive husband, who’s squirreling all our assets into other foreign accounts. Suddenly, he declared only $42,000 income to the IRS. I told him that I wanted to file separately, but he forged my name anyway. Last week he refused to give me my stimulus check, saying it was his, and started calling his usual disparaging names. I have a heart condition and the tension was so bad, I should go back to the hospital for another procedure. I have a restraining order.
My question is, would it be better to get a divorce (He’s 76) or a separation? (NJ) He was of a world managers of a huge corporation and living on his pension from Italy.
I’m afraid he’s will leave me penniless.
KV
A divorce and a legal separation are similar procedures with similar outcomes, except with a legal separation you are technically still married and not able to remarry. I don’t know if in your state the access to income and assets is the same as with divorce, or different.
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